I am tired. Tired of hearing about the multiple rapes that happen all over the world, but especially right here, close to home.
I am tired of hearing about victims who don’t want to come forward because of the disgusting way that people treat them. Asking things such as, “What were YOU wearing?” , “Were you drinking?”, “Did you lead him on?”, “Are you sure you didn’t want it?”, “Are you just upset that your parents found out?”, and the list goes on. NOBODY should have to be subjected to those types of questions after becoming a victim. It is rude, disrespectful, and just down right disgusting.
Same goes for the comment “Boys will be boys!”. No. That is not okay. Not even close. I’m not sure where anyone gets the right to disrespect another simply because they are a certain gender. Since when did society start believing this was okay?
When are we going to make changes? When are we going to stand up and make it known that the actions that the authorities have shown in different cases are not acceptable? What will we do?
We need to teach our daughters that it’s okay to tell a boy no. We need them to understand that no really does mean no. We need to teach them the appropriate ways to dress. Is this because boys can’t handle themselves and girls should cover up as to not get attacked? No. Girls should dress appropriately anyway. If they decide they don’t want to, so be it. But that will NOT give anyone an excuse to commit rape. We need to teach our daughters self defense. We need them to know that they are worth more than their bodies. We need to teach them to be strong. They need to know what types of situations to stay away from. They need to learn that they have a safe place and a safe person/people to talk to if something should happen. They need to know that they won’t be questioned when something happens to them and that justice can and will be served.
We need to teach our sons how to respect and treat a lady. They need to know that just because a girl is wearing a parka or is standing naked in front of them does NOT mean that it is okay to touch them without their permission. They need to know that no, means no and nothing else. When a girl tells them to stop, they stop. No questions asked. We need to teach them that they never do anything with a girl just because she is drunk. If she comes onto them, they need to be gentlemen and avoid the situation. If a girl won’t remember what happened that night and they think she will question it, don’t do it. We need to teach our sons that women are not objects and that they are human beings who deserve respect. We need to teach our sons that those girls are someones daughter, sister, aunt, niece, or even mother. We need to teach them how to stand up for a girl if they see a situation that doesn’t look like it will end well. We need to teach them to be the change. Be different than others.
So again I ask.
What will we do?